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What IS it with parents today?

Ok, I've read 3 questions just in the past few hours about kids starting fires with lighters, kids getting into garages, etc. Why are the parents of these kids not watching their children? Why dont' parents take more precuations with their children? It's insane to see that some people take no measures to protect their kids inside their own homes! Is it sheer laziness? Lack of forethought? Lack of caring? I have 3 kids, ages 14, 4 and 2 and not ONE of them has ever gotten ahold of a lighter, gotten under the kitchen sink, gotten into a medicine cabinet or into the garage! People, they are called safety locks, safety latches, safety knobs! I don't get why a parent would get mad at a kid for ruining something of theirs if they didn't take the precautions to make sure that child didn't even have access to that area?! I get so frustrated with immature parents and people that are more caught up in themselves than in caring for the lives of another human being! Anyone with me? My kids HAVE had accidents mind you. I don't "smother" them and I'm not overprotective. I let them climb trees and I let them fall when they need to. I am not there to catch them every time. I do, however, take safety precautions! If I am working in the kitchen with my youngest (2) she is in her chair that has a seat belt so that she can't climb down and get into the dishwasher. I have latches on my oven. I do what I can to keep them from getting seriously injured. My 2 youngest have both had surgery this past year, one for a tumor and one for her eyes. Accidents DO happen and I have also been through broken bones. My point is that parents aren't even taking the precautions yet they complain and gripe when something happens! I never said it made me a better mother than anyone else.

Public Comments

  1. YOU SAID IT!!! Good point you are making...more parents need to spend their time with their kids watching them rather than complaining about them getting into things and hurting themselves!!
  2. I think some kids are more active then others. My kids never get into things like that either and are very well behaved.. but I don't assume I am a better parents. SOme kids are very hyper... mine are calm... I have seen some kids that are just mischievious and fast...so just because my kids are calm and good thinkers.. doesn't mean I am a better parent
  3. i absolutely agree with you. I have a 6 month old son, and even though it's my first child, i would NEVER leave him unsupervised to give him the chance to do stuff like that. People just get lazy and want to watch tv and things like that so they just let their kids go crazy. Selfish if you ask me, they shouldn't have kids if they don't want to look after them! Surely they knew it was a full time job before they fell pregnant in the first place!!!
  4. Are you done? Who do you think you are criticizing these parents? Accidents happen. Kids get into things parents don't realize are out there for the kids to get into. Just becasuse you are more aware of "safety locks" does not make you a better or more surperior parent. You sound anal.
  5. Because parents are getting younger, and, naturally, dumber. It's as simple as that. Most new parents today weren't even responsible enough to use a freakin' condom, how are they going to raise a kid?
  6. IM WITH YOU!!! I have three kidsm ages 4, 3 ,and 1!!!
  7. Frustrated? Yes, but in my opinion, we are likely two, maybe three generations from the problem's inception. As parents of the 60's became more involved in themselves, free love, drugs, all that alternative culture scene, kids began having to raise themselves. Schools were limited on what they could teach from a moral aspect and discipline has waned to practically zero. So, what we have are people having children who had little if any guidance themselves, so what is the natural result? None of us were born with inherent good sense, so we have kids doing things that children of my generation wouldn't dream of for fear of losing a limb or at best not be able to sit for a month!
  8. oh my god YES! completely WITH YOU!!! i'm only 15, but i'm very aware of the world around me. i dont hate my parents, but EVERYONE ELSES!!! i don't have many friends, but what i see on the news is INSANE! everyone's afraid of getting sued, especially school systems. school boards and parents are all lunatics, in my opinion. parents don't care and schools are afraid of the parents because they don't give a crap about there kids, only the money they can get for sueing schools. parents are crazy. why? because they didnt get spanked hard enough, and now they don't spank there kids AT ALL. what happened to physical DISCIPLINE?!?!?!!? lol. people are crazy.
  9. Okay, I'm with you, and I'm not. With my first four, I could have said the same thing. Then I had my fifth. He is now four years old and has had stitches, lost two front teeth and managed to squeeze some more bleach out of the discarded jug that was in the recycle bin. If he had been my first, he would still have been like this. Children need protection, but they also can't be smothered. Let them climb trees and play with sticks. Accidents happen. You do have a point, but I think you are also walking a very fine line.
  10. It is laziness. I get so frustrated when people delay on taking their children to the doctor or the dentist. When they don't take them on time the child gets worse and ends up getting an infection. I do understand kids get infections but there is a way to prevent them too.
  11. I don't feel that it's the fact that they're uncaring. I sometimes thing that they're just ignorant. They don't realize that kids CAN and WILL do things that adults know better than to do. Granted, I will admit that there are some parents that shouldn't have procreated at all but for the most part (and this is me being optimistic) I think parents are just not aware! I myself don't have children, but I have 4 godbabies and 2 neices and I don't have any locks on my cabinets or change anything when they come. They have been in my house long enough that they learn from my looks. I have never had any of my babies go under my cabinets, break anything and they haven't had a "mistake" happen in the first place. I feel that parents are becoming too lenient and letting the TV raise their children. Why should a child learn not to play with matches when their cartoon does? Because children are growing up infront of TV's they are learning from what the TV teaches them. So, to answer your questions...I think the world is becoming accustomed to having the TV and entertainment raise their kids. They don't have "time" to actually teach them anything.
  12. AMEN sister, I am in total agreement with you! What about the people that sit and cuss up a storm and then slap their kids when they say it.
  13. Absolutely! People use TV as a babysitter now, I think if people have children they should PARENT them! If you're PARENTING then your child won't be into things that can harm them!
  14. Parents are to lax. They are afraid to discipline now a days. I got my fanny whacked when I was young for doing wrong...and I thought about it before I did it again. I also think that a lot of parents don't have a connection with their kids. I didn't do 90% of the things that I could have done out of respect for my parents. I was afraid to disappoint them, and that kept me out of trouble. I don't think that kids are taught to respect their elders anymore. It is a sad truth.
  15. Amen! I have been accused of being over protective...but let me tell you...no broken bones...no stitches...no head traumas... I would much rather be over protective! I mean as they're getting older, I'm releasing the leash, and letting them make their own choices, but I'm noticing that their choices are tending to be good ones...:) I wrote a question recently about my 13 year old step daughter's diary...and although I know it was an invasion of privacy...it still startled me how many people thought that their privacy was more important then their safety. I just don't understand people either, but I do understand how seriously the media impacts these impressional children. That is why we as parents need to work over time, making sure we know where they are at all times. The reason I read my step daughter's diary is because I do NOT know where they are at all times because we share custody 50 % of the time with their mother, ect...We can't fix problems if we don't know what the problems are. I hope I answered your question. :)
  16. Sorry, I'm still laughing over Beccas comment! Ok, I'm done. True, parents do need to watch their kids and keep them safe, including safety products, however, accidents do happen. My sister-n-law had my nephew in the kitchen floor playing with blocks while she did dishes one night. She would rinse a few off and then load them in the dishwasher. She turned around to the sink to get somemore dishes, and within the 20 sec. she was turned around, my nephew had gotten up and crawled on the door of the dishwasher. When she turned back around, he saw her and thought he was about to get in trouble, tried to get off, slipped and pierced his lip on one of the sticks that hold the plates up. So, does that accident mean that she is a bad mom, or that she was "immature and more caught up in herself than caring for her son"?
  17. I agree with you, I don't know what the problem is that so many parents refuse to parent their children today. I have three children (ages 13, 11 and 9) and the youngest is severely autistic...none of them have ever gotten into anything like that. The worst thing any of them ever got into was my daughter tried to paint her toenails once when she was about 3. I do not accept when other parents go on about how difficult or tiring it is to do these things...try it with a special needs child who is a runner, nudist at heart, climbs like a monkey and who the first several years of his life rarely ever slept for more than 45 minutes at a time. I do not understand why parents will not make their homes secure and teach their children not to play with fire. I also do not understand why so many parents refuse to teach their children to be respectful of other people and other people's things...so many children act like if they see something they want they have a right to it.
  18. I agree! I hear so many stories about "oh i just turned my back for a minute and then.......(fill in the blank with a disaster)" It's ridiculous! If you have to leave the room or step out for a moment, put the kid(s) in a safe place and for older kids, either take them with you or give them instructions to watch the little ones (for kids 12 and up) and have a trusted neighbor keep an eye on them. If i have to step out for a few minutes, my one year old goes straight inthe pack n play until I am done and if I leave the house I always take him with me! It's sooo frustrating!! I know that accidents happen, but a good majority could have been prevented.
  19. DEAR MISS GREAT POST OK PARENTS HAVE KIDS TO DAY AND DO NOT WANT TO TAKE CARE OF THEM THEY ETHER LEAVE THEM WHERE NO ONE CAN FIND THEM ARE ALWAYS DO NOT CARE IF THEY ARE CLEAN GOT FOOD TO EAT NOTHING WE HAVE OUR HOME CHILD PROOFED TO STOP SOMETHING FROM HAPPENING TO THEM THE KNIFE DRAWER UNDER THE SINK ALL CHARIS TV VCR DVD PLAYER FILM CABINET WE EVEN HAVE ALL WALL PLUGS CHILD PROOF WITH THE PLASTIC CAPS EVEN MOUSE TRAPS ARE OUT OF SITE IF NEED SO FOR NOT BUT WE DO NOT TAKE ANY CHANCES AND NO ONE SMOKES ALL THE HOME IS NO GAS IT IS ALL ELECTRIC EVEN THE HOT WATER HEATER AND IF THE CHILD DOES TURN IT ON THEY WILL NOT GET BURNED WE HAVE A SAFETY LOCK OVER THE HANDLE I KNOW EVERY ONE HAS SEEN THEM THEY LOOK LIKE SCOOBY DOO HARD PLASTIC AND WE LEAVE NO BREAKABLES DOWN LOW ETHER NOTHING TO HARM THEM AT ALL OK TAKE CARE
  20. I think you need to teach your kids not to get into thigns rather than to put locks on every single item on the house.
  21. TOTALLY AGREE. Yes accidents do happen, but getting ahold of a lighter???? come on. Not to mention my daughters wouldn't touch a lighter even if we did leave one out, why?? because we believe in both discipline and CONSEQUENCES, yep- they'd be be getting a good spanking if they did.
  22. It definitely is laziness and lack of caring. It doesn't take long for little ones to get into danger. We store our lighters (for candles) up so high, we need a big chair to reach them. My parents both smoked when we were young and they always left their matches and lighters around. We started a small fire and was punished for it. Go figure!