spanking instead of grounding?

my brother and i broke into our dads cabinet in the garage and spilled a bottle of something on the garage floor. we tried to clean it up but our mom found out. it smelled really bad and i'm not sure what it was. once she found out she sent us to our room. she told my brother he was getting spanked later and that i was grounded. i have to share a room with my brother. when my dad got home from work he came up, opened our door and told us both of us about how dangerous it was. he then grabbed my brother, yanked down his shorts and underwear and spanked him. i kind of laughed at him when he was getting it. after my dad got done something bad happened. he grabbed me and did the same thing to me. i couldn't do anything and i cried to. my brother is in 3rd grade and i'm in 7th. i can understand why my borther got spanked but i am way to old. i thought i was going to be grounded i think this is way unfair. what can i do?

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Being spanked is NOT OKAY. that is CHILD ABUSE. Call some help, NOW.
try acting right
I think this was too excessive, meaning to much for you guys to go through, grounding is enough.
Maybe he thinks you are immature for your age...and maybe he didn't think it was funny when you laughed at your brother....when my Dad would yell at my little brother for something I would start crying...I hate to see my little brother upset. Maybe if you didn't laugh at him then you wouldn't have got hit. Your Dad probably hates doing it and to see you laugh made him mad...
well, if u are the older one, firstly you shouldn't have spilled anything and tried to hide it and you should have comforted ure brother instead of laughing. Im in 7th grade too, but i dont laugh when my friends are in trouble.
You laughed... that's prolly what set him off....... Y'all kinda deserved what ya got you did Break into a cabinet in the Garage...............
Look at it this way, what will cause you more harm, your dad spanking you, or the chemicals from the spill. I can understand why he did it. It was an impulsive reaction to his own fears that you two would be hurt. He figured he would get the message accross by causing you fear and spaking him instead of talking to him. And see it worked. He did instill some fear in you. Oh and spanking is not child abuse. Beating you up would be. Talk to your dad, tell him that spanking no longer works in the 7th grade. And stay out of the garage. Oh and breaking into your dads stuff could be construed as breaking and entereing. So you deserve your punishment. You have no business doing that.
ARe you for real? If you are - talk to your parents when they are in a calmer mood. It helps by doing daily chores without being asked. I would ask them why what i did was wrong. Explain that you knew it was wrong to brake into your dad's cabnet (would you like someone to break into your belongings???). There is not much that you can do about the smacking bit but to stay out of trouble. Once that your parents see that you are starting to act adult/more mature than they will start treating you more mature and may start grounding rather then smacking
Talk to him about it and find out why he has changed his way to discipline. Give him your opinions and tell him you know now you were wrong and you would like to talk about things instead.
I d say your dad did the right thing cause you both could have been seriously hurt . Spanking is a good thing cause it makes you remember the sting a little better and you will think about it before you do something bad again . He spanked you both to teach you a lesson and your mom should have spoken to your father about the fact that she grounded you and told you so . Talk to your mother and be polite with her and ask her why she told you that knowing your father would probably spank. good luck and I hope you learned your lesson .
You can stay out of stuff in the garage that you have no business messing with. When you do things a 3rd grader does then you get treated like one-including the spanking.
Try and stay out of trouble . Do things that wont suggest a spanking . Teach your brother ways to stay out of trouble as well . If you feel you are to old to get spanked then stay away from your parents things and act like you are your age . I'm not being mean I am telling you how to avoid spankings . GOOD LUCK !!!
You got what you deserved. You shouldn't have messed around in the garage, then try to hide what you did and laughing at your brother was totally uncalled for. I hope you learned a good lesson!
The punishment your parents give to you is their decision and reflects the way they think about parenting. What I've found is that smart a** remarks or in this case, laughing when your brother got his punishment, will just make your parents mad. What it seems like here is your dad thought you needed to learn a lesson when you thought it was slightly funny that your brother was spanked.
for me that is just fair enough.. recall that you kinda laugh when your brother got his spanking.. dont worry muc coz, what your dad did was just right to let you kno and understand things.. sometime spanking is a way to teach children how to act appropriately, for them to remember the wrong deed that they have done. what you can do is apoogize and learn that you will get spanked again if you dont behave.. grounding is really nothing.. but spanking is enduring the pain.. so next time if you like more pain, then do somethign wrong and ask for spanking.. bet you wouldnt.
I don't think it was OK - especially the way your dad did it - pulling down the pants and spanking (with bare hand or belt?) - bare hand would've been too weird for a 7th grader - anyway that's another story! If ever I spank I hit only once in the rear to stop them right there and then not hours after it happened. Shame on mom for getting the dad all riled up when he got home ... she should've handled it! She had plenty of time to cool off and tell her kids what they did wrong ... Do you know what you spilled and what the ramifications are? if not then they didn't do their job!
ok for people saying you deserve that for what you did are wrong. First of all, im sure whatever you spilled was not on purpose and you did try to clean it up. If anything you should have gotten punished for breaking into the cabinet, but not spanked. That is not an effective method in punishing someone because it could just mess with someone's psyche this day and age. I used to get spanked when i was little, but i was OUT OF CONTROL i was like a devil child. You are like what 13yrs old? thats too old to be getting spanked. You need to show your dad you are responsible and go and apologize to him for breaking into the cabinet, that is probably what he wants you to do anyway. Your dad isnt a an alcoholic by any chance is he?
Getting spanked for older kids is like getting a shot. You were screaming when you were 4, but then, when your older, they might as well have just pinched you ya know? Haha. I'm 15 and still getting spanked. I reccomend the next time your brother's getting beat don't laugh. Personally, I can't stand to watch it, especially when they use a belt on the kid as a freaking whip. I can almost feel the pain. But, it's for the best, odds are, the kids who were spanked as youngsters get farther in life because they've learned from their mistakes. In the end, it is fair because you get to watch all the people who were lazy and got grounded as kids suffer in their adult lives.
Contrary to what serenity said, being spanked is NOT child abuse; it's patchouli sniffing parents like her that have kids who are causing the high crime rates today. For what you did, you both got what you deserved.
Why would it be ok for your bro and not you? You need to accept responsibility for your actions. Better a spanking now than prison later.
You are NEVER too old to be spanked. Maybe a nice whuppin' and then a few hours of actually being grounded. In a room with nothing but a chair and four walls, a ceiling, and a floor to stare at. That's a real grounding! Oh how I miss the screamin'! I remember when there were daily beatings just to keep us in line! Kids are just not given the spanking like they out too. Time-outs are for parents who are afraid of their children. P.S. It's time you learned that life is not fair! P.P.S Why aren't you in school?
I would've tanned your hide too if you were laughing at your little brother while he was being punished, that's completely unacceptable. Punishment isn't a joke, and I think he clearly proved the point. If one kid laughs at another kid being punished, the kid laughing deserves the same punishment or to serve the punishment that the kid he was laughing at was going to receive.
honey, you will never be to old for a spanking. Try and remember your dad did it because he loves you and he dont want you to make the same mistake again
You are never to old to be spanked. If you just kept your stupid mouth shut you wouldnt have gotten spanked. You should be glad it's not the 50's and your dad cant beat you with a belt.
OK SO UR IN 7th GRADE SO YOU SHOULD HAVE KNOWN BETTER THAN YOUR YOUNG BROTHER. YES YOUR DAD DID THE RIGHT THING YOUR THINK TWICE BEFORE YOU DO SOMETHING SO SILLY AGAIN WONT YOU? WHY SHOULD YOU GET AWAY WITH A GROUNDING AND NOT YOUR BROTHER? ALSO DON'T YOU THINK IT WAS WRONG TO LAUGH AT YOUR BROTHER? AND YOU ONLY LAUGHED BECAUSE YOU THOUGHT YOU'D GOT AWAY FROM A SPANKING BUT HOW WRONG YOU WAS. YOU WONT BE LAUGHING NEXT TIME HE GETS A SPANKING WILL YOU.
GOOD FOR YOUR DAD. HE DID WHATS RIGHT. YOU DESERVED THE SPANKING. SO SHUT UP YOUR WHINING. THE FIRST ANSWER IS FULL OF BS.
oh well stop your whining it was fair. Act like a little kid you get treated like a little kid get over it!
I think you got spanked b/c your dad wanted you to see how it feels to be spanked and embarrassed in front of your brother since you laughed at him. I think the only thing you should do about the situation is apologize to you brother and your dad.